Everyone loves a theme! Who doesn’t like going to a “Roaring 20s” or an “Ugly Christmas Sweater” party! The issues occur were people start to incorporate cultures or groups into those themes. So, in order to avoid going viral unless that is your goal (you do you, boo) – here are some useful tips before you participate in a themed costume party.
1. Visually put yourself (and your costume) in that culture
So, you want to dress up as Maui from “Moana.” Great, but before you do that – imagine you are walking down the streets of Hilo, Hawaii wearing your costume. Do you draw angry stares? Is it uncomfortable? Are you now running down those streets being chased by an angry mob? These are the questions to ask yourself before you put on a costume and end up trending on Black Twitter (seriously, Kim Kardashian, stop with the cornrows).
2. Do some research
Want to wear a keffiyeh (a traditional Middle Eastern headdress) or a war bonnet (Native American headdress)? Well, know what it means before you decide to wear it. This means do some research on the history and the cultural significance of the item. Normally, this will discourage an individual from wearing an item that may result in cultural appropriation. However, if you still decide to wear it then at least you can speak intelligently while you are being dragged through the internet – trying to find that silver lining for you.
3. Check your privilege
In a world that is struggling with classism, it is important to remember that someone from a particular socioeconomic status is not a costume. When you emulate a group of people (think “white trash party” or a “ghetto get-together”) for one day, remember that those people live that “costume” everyday – they don’t have the opportunity to take it off, but you do (this is the definition of privilege). Is it humorous to make fun of someone’s life? If someone that didn’t grow up with a silver spoon in their mouth attended your party (which is most people), would they feel comfortable? The important thing to remember is always put yourself in that person’s shoes. I don’t think any joke is worth making if it results in someone feel invalidated.
Happy costuming!